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I have dedicated my life to the principles of Ren (benevolence) and Li (propriety), guiding individuals and states toward harmony and order. Through these teachings, I offer timeless wisdom on cultivating personal virtue, fostering ethical relationships, and establishing just governance. Let us rebuild society upon a foundation of righteousness and respect, ensuring a flourishing future for all.
A Guide to Cultivating Sincerity in Word and Deed
February 1st 527 BCE
Last updated December 10th 2025
I have long taught that the foundation of a well-ordered family, and thus a well-ordered state, rests upon the character of the individual. At the heart of this character is sincerity (cheng), the alignment of one's inner self with one's outward expression. Without it, trust cannot exist, and society decays into chaos. This is no simple matter of mere honesty, which can be crude. Rather, it is the deliberate and constant effort to make your words a true reflection of your heart, and your actions a true fulfillment of your words. This practice is the root of all virtue. Follow these instructions, and you will learn to be a person of integrity, a worthy stone in the foundation of a just world.
You will need:
A period of quiet set aside at the beginning and end of each day for undisturbed reflection.
A mind willing to examine its own thoughts and motives without deception.
A surface for keeping a record—be it paper, silk, or a smoothed tablet of wax—to note one's failings and progress.
An understanding of proper conduct and ritual (Li) suitable to your station.
The counsel of a trusted friend or elder who is not afraid to offer honest correction.
1. Begin the Day with Intention
Upon rising, before the day's affairs commence, sit in stillness. Ask yourself: What duties do I face today? What is the right and proper way to approach them? Resolve to act with benevolence and integrity. A day that begins without a clear moral compass will surely end in a place of confusion. This initial setting of purpose is the anchor for all that follows.
2. Guard the Gateway of Your Speech
Before you speak, pause. The superior person acts before he speaks, and afterwards speaks according to his actions. Ask yourself: Are these words true? Are they necessary? Do they align with my duties and my inner feelings? Idle chatter and boastful promises are the mark of a small man. Let your words be few, but let them be as solid as stone.
3. Let Your Actions Follow Your Words
A promise made must be a promise kept. To say one thing and do another is to sow distrust in others and carve falsehood into your own character. Sincerity is proven not by elegant pronouncements, but by steadfast conduct. Even in small matters, let your actions be the unwavering echo of your words. This is how one builds a reputation for reliability.
4. Perform Rituals with an Upright Heart
Proper conduct (Li) provides the structure for harmonious relations. Yet, performing a ritual with an empty heart is a hollow gesture. When you greet an elder, feel respect. When you make an offering, feel reverence. Sincerity infuses these essential forms with meaning. Without this inner truth, ritual becomes mere theater, a deception to oneself and to the community.
5. End the Day with Self-Examination
In the quiet of the evening, take up your tablet or scroll. Reflect on the day's events. Ask yourself these questions: In my dealings with others, have I been faithful? In my words with friends, have I been trustworthy? Have I put into practice the principles I claim to uphold? Mark your failings without excuse. This honest accounting is the soil in which improvement grows.
6. Seek Correction from the Worthy
One cannot see the back of one's own head. Likewise, we are often blind to our own faults. Seek out a person of wisdom and integrity, and ask for their honest assessment of your conduct. To hear criticism and not grow angry, and to correct your faults when they are pointed out—this is a sign of true strength and a sincere desire to cultivate virtue.
7. Practice Sincerity in Small Things
Do not wait for a great test of character. A great river is fed by countless small streams. Cultivate sincerity in the smallest of your daily actions: the way you answer a question, the care you take in your work, the honesty of a simple transaction. By making sincerity a habit in trifles, you ensure it will be your nature when faced with great matters.
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